This is what baffles me: what was inconceivable before you were gone, as for anyone else, seems irrefutable, after. — This is what baffles me: what was inconceivable before you were gone, as for anyone else, seems irrefutable, after. Something like: “It’s all said and done.” ∞ Thinking it impossible before. So undeniable, after. ∞ The dual reality of before-and-after has no sadness involved. It’s stark and it’s blunt.